The signs of distorted thinking, existentialism and authentic networking

We all live with a ton of blind spots. Yes, you let-brained logical humans, even you.

At some level, we’re all guilty of exaggerated and negative thought patterns that only fuel misery, giving us an inaccurate perception of reality.

These patterns of thinking are referred to as cognitive distortions.

Here are some common symptoms of this tendency:

Overgeneralization- I failed at this venture, I should never try running a business again.

Internalization: My date is late, and probably not interested in me.

‘Should’ statements: I should have been on the cover for Forbes by now.

Emotional reasoning: I keep attracting the wrong person. I will never find love.

Labeling: I can never get anything done on time, I’m just a procrastinator.

You get the drift.

Engaging in this kind of thinking is problematic in more ways than one. It encourages a mindset of feeling victimized by life and discards the possibility of ever making positive changes.

Becoming aware of this tendency is a start to getting out of this trap. It also helps to recognize that cognitive distortions are merely a coping mechanism.

Think about it…

Does it give you a sense of control when you feel hopeless? Does it help you to avoid taking responsibility in certain situations?

Seeing these cognitive distortions for what they are and being able to reflect on them objectively, is when you will remove their power over you.

Making your existence matter

Since the dawn of human civilization, man’s biggest quest has been his search for meaning.

This takes precedence above all because it appears to be the path to a fulfilled life and fulfillment as you probably know is the big daddy of happiness.

In case you’ve ever stayed up late nights wondering about why you’re here on this planet and how to make your life matter, this conversation will spark some insights from you.

Dr Sara Kubrik, better known as the millennial therapist shares her views on:

-The essence of existentialism
-Understanding happiness and the path to fulfillment
-How to take responsibility and be a conscious architect of your life
-The nuances of free will
-How to deal with attachment in relationships

and more!

An underrated networking tip

Networking can feel overwhelming.

In the urge to stand out, you might find yourself oscillating between sliding in people’s DM’s promoting various services or flashing business cards to everyone at a convention.

There’s a simpler and more effective way to be recognized and leave a mark on people.

It’s called being genuinely interested in others.

You can’t be forgotten by people who have been made to feel that you are purely interested in them for nothing but the sake of being interested in them.

This impact extends far beyond simply sharing a product or a business card.

Showing up authentically without any transactions is the most underrated way to build meaningful relationships.

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