Transforming relationships, health and career growth

Disney did a real number on us….

The never-ending romance and adoration, accompanied by one happy ending after another, screwed our perception of relationships by creating unfair expectations and a biased view of how humans operate.

The truth is that no relationship, particularly the ones you grow up with, is devoid of conflict. But it is possible to have healthy relationships, despite it.

Understanding these four facts can be a gamechanger:

1. Conflict is created by misunderstandings and escalated by the ego. Meeting halfway becomes difficult when you're obsessing over proving your point. Conversely, the only way to convert an argument into a reasonable conversation is to tame your ego and rise above it.

2. Anger stems from unmet needs and unfulfilled expectations.
Anger may be a default response but deep down it is rooted in hurt, a fact most of us miss when impulsive reactions take over.
Not expressing unmet needs authentically leads to spurring out abuses. Anger is a powerful force but real power lies in embracing vulnerability.

3. Listening is transformative. In the heat of the moment, when feeling triggered and reactive, this feels impossible to do but it is the way to move towards closure. Detaching from the need to be right opens up pathways to finding solutions together.

4.Let go of grudges. Holding on to stuff is toxic both for internal health and the external dynamic. While dropping resentments and moving past them, doesn't come naturally, the effort is worth it for peace of mind and sanity.
No matter how bad things get, you can always find your way back to love.

We're well familiar with the saying: Relationships take work.

THIS is the work.

A Pill-free approach to better health

Most of America suffers from pill-popping syndrome. Every second TV commercial features some pharmaceutical drug or the other. In the pursuit of shortcuts and quick fixes, people seem to neglect a fundamental truth:

All disease is rooted in emotional imbalance.

Sadness and grief affect the lungs, anger affects the liver, stress and worry attack the spleen and the list goes on…

Living a healthy life comes down to managing your internal world well, which is what becoming emotion-smart is all about.

There’s no escape from stress, but there is a way to get a better grip on it.

Embarking on this journey will help you get there:

The hidden key to faster growth

Adam Mosseri, head of Instagram was recently asked what it took to rise in the ranks from being a product designer at Facebook and develop a good relationship with Mark Zuckerberg.

Here's what he had to say:

"I wasn't good. I was just reliable".

Who would've thought that something so simple could lead to such significant growth?

But that's the thing with reliability. It's underrated.

Here's what it means to be reliable:

-Being someone others can count on
-Seeing things through to completion
-Maintaining confidentiality
-Keeping your word; and most importantly
-Being transparent and owning up to your mistakes

What stood out to the most form this interview was Adam’s admission about what he was NOT good at.

In a world where we're conditioned to project perfection, it's our raw, authentic selves that build greater credibility, because...

Authenticity trumps pretense.

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