How to stop being broke and heartbroken

Before the advent of the Internet and the creator economy, financial abundance was equated to working hard.

But if that were the case, Robert Kisoyki’s real dad would have lived a very different life. Instead, he convinced himself that he was nothing greater than a regular employee and that making wealth wasn’t meant for him.

Consequently, he lived an average working-class life and left with no legacy to pass on.

Contrast this with Robert’s bestie Mike’s dad, who was one of the wealthiest men around town because he believed in his ability to make money and spent his time across entrepreneurship and investing.

One dad lived his life with the narrative “I can’t afford that”, while the other had the ambition of “How can I afford that”.

This relatable difference in attitudes along with all the insights on creating wealth, have made Rich Dad, Poor Dad one of the best-selling books in the personal finance space.

Over the years I’ve come to understand that success is not really about accumulating experience, it’s not even about implementing the right strategy….

It’s a mindset game.

A majority of people get left behind because they give their negative thoughts way too much importance than they deserve. This is where mastering the mind comes into play and can be at your rescue.

Dealing with anything difficult in life doesn’t mean that the situation has to change, it just means our perspective needs to shift. This is ultimately what differentiates those who succeed from those who stay stuck and play the victim.

Here’s how you can ensure that you’re out of the negative trap and are winning in life:

Write down your thoughts. When you see your thoughts spelled out, you know exactly what’s making your mind feel unsettled. Doing this not only gives you clarity but also helps in scrutinizing which thoughts are working against you.

Question them. Ask yourself is this really true? When beliefs are not questioned, they end up running our lives. And no thoughts or beliefs can be changed without challenging them, first. This requires awareness.
If you aren’t even aware of the beliefs driving you, you’ll end up living in a loop. So empty out your mind on a piece of paper and play devil’s advocate.

Change your lenses. We often fall into the trap of expecting things around us to change when all we need to do is change our perspective. The examples of Robert’s two dad outlines this beautifully. Same situation, different perspectives and hence different results. So every now and then, try and change your lens for the way you look at things.

There’s nothing that a well-trained mind can stop you from achieving. Remember that reality is nothing but a construction of your perception.

The cost of toxic environments

What do you think parenting has to do with struggling in life and attracting the wrong partners? Everything.

Growing up in a toxic environment with unhealthy family patterns takes a toll on the body in the form of stored trauma. This stored trauma subsequently impacts different life scenarios and undermines our self-connection, impacting everything else- struggling in jobs or failing in relationships.

Manpreet Johal’s life was taking a similar turn. She kept attracting unavailable men and had massive money blocks. Until she initiated her journey of doing deep inner work that eventually shifted her reality where she’s now married to her dream man and has a successful business.

In this episode, she’ll share what she made happen for herself and how you can do the same.

You’ll learn about:

-What trauma really is
-Why you keep attracting the wrong partner
-What it takes to build a healthy relationship with yourself.
-How to heal money blocks and create the wealth you deserve.

A simple hack to increase your momentum

When it comes to hacking daily goals, everyone wants to feel like warriors but instant gratification and overhwlem get in the way.

Soon enough, the stress of unfinished tasks takes over and we find ourselves in self-perpetuating cycles of stressing and repeating what’s not working.

To break this cycle and build some momentum, instead of focusing on incomplete tasks and bashing yourself, start with stuff you are good at and work from there.

It’s often the smallest shifts that can work towards establishing the right momentum because ultimately the brain works around the evidence it gets.

So before you end your day, focus on at least things you are good at and were able to get done.

Regardless of how chaotic your day pans out to be, it’s important to end it right. This sets the stage for waking up the next day with a degree of confidence, believing that you can conquer whatever lies ahead.

Make a point to say these three words to yourself, as often as you please:

“I got this”.

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